afzan’s life

Oleh : Dr HM Tuah Iskandar Al-Haj

"Melalui
emel, seorang wanita bertanya apakah keturunan menyumbang perihal
jodoh. Kakaknya sudah berumur 35 tahun masih belum berkahwin. Usianya
sendiri sudah 25 tahun dan masih belum punya teman."

Tidak,
jodoh tiada kaitan dengan keturunan. Hanya belum sampai masanya. Ia
bagai menanti jambatan untuk ke seberang. Kalau panjang jambatannya
jauhlah perjalanan kita. Ada org jodohnya cepat sebab jambatannya
singkat. Usia 25 tahun rasanya belumlah terlalu lewat. Dan usia 35
tahun belum apa2 kalau sepanjang usia itu telah digunakan untuk membina
kecemerlangan. Nyatakanlah perasaan dan keinginan anda itu dalam doa2
lewat sembahyang. Allah mendengar.

Wanita
baik untuk lelaki yang baik, sebaliknya wanita jahat untuk lelaki yang
jahat. Biar lambat jodoh asalkan mendapat Mr Right dan biar seorang
diri drp menjadi mangsa lelaki yang tidak beriman kemudian nanti.

Memang
kita mudah tersilap mentafsir kehidupan ini. Kita selalu sangka, aku
pasti bahagia kalau mendapat ini. Hakikatnya, apabila kita benar2
mendapat apa yang kita inginkan itu, ia juga dtg bersama masalah.

Kita
selalu melihat org memandu kereta mewah dan terdetiklah di hati kita,
bahagianya org itu. Hakikatnya apabila kita sendiri telah memiliki
kereta mewah kita ditimpa pelbagai kerenah. Tidak mustahil pula org
yang memandu kereta mewah(walaupun sebenarnya tak mewah) terpaksa
membayar lebih tatkala berhenti untuk membeli durian di tepi jalan.
Orang lain membeli dengan harga biasa, dia terpaksa membayar berlipat
ganda.

Ketika anda
terperangkap dalam kesesakan jalan raya, motosikal mencelah-celah
hingga mampu berada jauh di hadapan. Anda pun mengeluh, alangkah
baiknya kalau aku hanya menunggang sebuah motosikal seperti itu dan
cepat sampai ke tmp yang dituju. Padahal si penunggang motosikal
mungkin sedang memikirkan bilakah dia akan memandu kereta di tgh2
bandar raya.

Bukan
semua yang anda sangka membahagiakan itu benar2 membahagiakan.
Bahagianya mungkin ada tapi deritanya juga datang sama. Semua benda,
pasti ada baik buruknya.

Demikian
juga perkahwinan. Ia baik sebab ia dibenarkan oleh agama, sunnah Nabi,
sebagai saluran yang betul untuk melepaskan shahwat di samping membina
sahsiah dan sebagainya, tapi ia juga buruk sebab ramai org yang
berkahwin hidupnya semakin tidak terurus.

Ramai
orang menempah neraka sebaik sahaja melangkahkan kaki ke alam
berumahtangga. Bukankah dengan ijab dan Kabul selain menghalalkan
hubungan kelamin, tanggungjawab yang terpaksa dipikul juga turut
banyak? Bukankah apabila anda gagal melaksanakannya, anda membina dosa
seterusnya jambatan ke neraka?

Berapa
ramaikah yang menyesali perkahwinan masing2 padahal dahulunya mereka
bermati-matian membina janji, memupuk cinta kasih malah ada yang
sanggup berkorban apa sahaja asalkan segala impian menjadi nyata?

Jika tidak
sanggup untuk bergelar isteri tidak usah berkahwin dulu. Jika merasakan
diri belum cukup ilmu untuk bergelar ibu ataupun ayah, belajarlah dulu.
Jika rasa2 belum bersedia untuk bersabar dgn kerenah anak2, carilah
dulu kesabaran itu. Jangan berkahwin dahulu sebab kenyataannya ramai
yang tidak bersedia untuk melangkah tetapi telah melompat, akhirnya
jatuh terjerumus dan tidak jumpa akar berpaut tatkala cuba mendaki
naik.

Berkahwin
itu indah dan nikmat bagi yang benar2 mengerti tuntutan2nya. Berkahwin
itu menjanjikan pahala tidak putus2 bagi yang menjadikannya gelanggang
untuk mengukuhkan ima, mencintai Tuhan dan menjadikan syurga sebagai
matlamat. Berkahwin itu sempadan dari ketidaksempurnaan insan kepada
kesempurnaan insan - bagi yang mengetahui rahsia2nya.

Berkahwinlah
anda demi Tuhan dan Nabi-Nya, bukan berkahwin kerana perasaan dan
mengikut kebiasaan. Jodoh usah terlalu dirisaukan, tiba masanya ia akan
datang menjemput, namun perlu juga anda membuka lorong2nya agar
jemputan itu mudah sampai dan tidak terhalang.

1st thing..many thanks to my dearest family,my dear amin (thx a lot budak busuk 4 de most valueable gift..its all about love..),all finance team; my 2 bosses Chan & Seah for the gift on my birtday,ila_purple,incik ridhuan,incik poi,keong & nurul..thank u so much for this 24th birthday gift to me.

I’d never expected this..happened once in my lifetime maybe.Necklace,sheaffer pen,nice song,stylo fashion clock, a lot of money haa… & few things cant remember.
Sorry for this English writing since Infineon team can read this at the same time.
No need to explain some more to them.

I think friendship & relationship as well will stay longer since i need to payback all this.Maybe kuih raya enough for it.hahaha!No special word or sentence can show how proud i am for this big circle of friends & family i have but i know you guys can understand the feeling of mine.

For those who never missed to wish for my birthday..thank you so much.
My bestfriends, schoolmates APIT (aku tetap rasa hg best wpun xbrapa betoi cm aku gak),shayda,cairol,tong,cielia,matduan,aman infineon mate syida,rosli,faz,prakyut,syidi, & many many ppl.My coursemate previously in UiTM, yanty, diana,ramzi,zharif,danial?,naja,azniyanty, wahhh…..damn!
I think too many in the list until cant intepret it in sentence.

For those i misses out your name,am sorry.Next time i’ll prepare whole list ok!Sometimes its cool…wonderful & very cheerful but the other time…terrible!
Now i know the feel when ppl around appreciate & always be with you.
Next time see you guys at HOTPOT ok!

Continue later…happy birthday to you..happy birthday to you…happy birthday to all of you…happy birthday to you…

dari sisi gelap mlm aku menaip nih..
lapang sgt smp bole carik keje2 gini lak.topik xde lak tp tggu stori dr syada!!
eh kawan..muncul la cepat dgn stori gempak diragut tuh.
aku nk gak amik iktibar apa patut nih.

>> kpd tong kwn lama skool…ini kata2 aku.hakhakhak!
hg suh aku carik cekgu haa..hg tuh bakal cekgu cukup la.
aku carik hg la nanti.
harap2 xmendung masa depan aku.kuikui..
utk menjadi ejek myMode yg gempak tuh..tunggu aku berpk sejenak dua n mengilhamkan sesuatu pastu aku juin.
mana la tau tido mlm ni ade idea dtg.
hg lepak UPSI dendiam k.

>>tarabas yg jauhh dimata..kwn lama skool gak.
ni dh cam pencarian kwn lama ni.
hg wat jemputan mkn2 laksa xpenah kena time.
yg pasti buatlah laksa lagik jadik aku bole pi sebok2 kt umah hg.
mesti sedap mak hg merangkap mak aku masak.hikhik..!

>>sape lagik?apit….lama kau ilang.
sejak dating kite dikedai mkn ABAH,kau senyap seribu bahasa,
mana sms sblm tido utk dihayati?
sunyi idup aku.

>>kwn2 skool smkcfb..lin,yanti,darweena,ayu yg cute bangat,munirah..rindu giler ah!
ape nk dibuat..kite jauh.jauh ke?
hahahha..harap2 terserempak le nanti kt mane2.
ade yg masih cam,ade gak yg dah xcam lagik.
dh bertahun xjumpe seh.
gud luck ah!

>>kengkawan itm yg dh kawen,bujang lagik dsbnye..
kisah2 dulu wahhh..indah skali.
kwn2 rapat n kwn kurang rapat..jumpelah kite nanti hendaknye.

disebabkan merepek pon dh panjang..berpeluh menaip..kite jumpe sok.
lalalala…..
pm le sape nk igt kite pastu nakkan perhargaan.
mane la bole igt suma kan.

AQUARIUS

Trustworthy..

Sexy.. (hmmmm..sort of)

Great kisser..(woohoo..yeah!!)

One of a kind..
Loves being in long-term relationships.
(yes, extremely true!)
Extremely energetic…

unpredictable…

from the future…

will exceed your expectations…

Not a Fighter, But will Knock your
lights out…
Amazing in bed, THE BEST LOVERS
BETTER THAN EVERYONE! (true enough!)
(*winkwink*)

LIBRA

Very pretty.

Very romantic.

Nice to everyone They meet.

Their Love is one of a kind.

Silly, fun and sweet.

Have own unique sexiness.

Most caring person you will ever meet!

Amazing in Bed..!!!
Did I say Amazing in Bed?

not the kind of person you
wanna …….. with.
..
u might end up crying…
the most irresistible

**tq shurul**

If you’re mad with someone , and nobody’s there to fix the situation… You fix it .

Maybe today, that person still wants to be your friend .
And if u don’t, tomorrow can be too late .

FW:Great….

AQUARIUS MAN

Hot-hearted man who likes to do thing his way. He can suddenly decide
to do something without thinking of it’s outcome. He is the type of guy with
aninside energizer, so if you fall in love with this type of guy be "patient",
even if you have to follow him a bit. His creative mind could create
fantastic idea any time. If you do not understand or cannot follow him,
you won’t be with him for long.

A man in this Zodiac will less likely to have a pale skin, and if he
has a scar, it would be on his face or on his head. He moves very fast and
very energetic, and he has a very self confident in himself. He is not the
type to sit down and feel sorry or regret anything for long, especially
with "Love". He loves justice. He dares to show his opinion or even argue
about certain subject even he knows it might bring him problems. A
straight forward type of guy.

He hardly lies except if he think it is necessary and he is not a good
liar anyway. He will not lie to you about serious matter, but if he lie he
will lie only a small little thing. He is gifted with the ability to be a
very social person. He could talk even about subject that he has no
knowledge of.He interests only at the present time and look at the world
positively. Many times he feels hurt because of reality, but he will not run away and
he will overcome that difficulty.

Even he is a high and self confident type and center his own thought
as amain focus, but at the same time he is a kind, cute and polite guy.
He certainly is not a mean person. He likes to help people who are in
troubles even he is not asked to. He is the type who feels sorry if you remember
bad things he said to you that he had already forgotten,but you did not.
Belief him that he is very sorry and give him another chance.

Once he decides to do something, he will put all his mind and energy in
it either in his "Work", or "Love". He is the type who gamble anything in
the casino, so do not even take him there. He does not like pessimistic,
low energy, and depress person, especially no brain. Strangely he like
to overpowered this type of people to assure that he is more superior.

He like to be the first person to do something. You can see sparkling
in his eyes, once he meet a new target or new lover. Once he is in love, he will
act as if he never has love like this before. This minute he could be
real sugar sweet, and later he could also be an icy cold, but do not blame
him for that will only chase him away. He could fall in love again with
another girl and act again like he never has this kind of love before.He
could really love someone, but not a heart broken type for. He thinks love
is "excitement" and "Love goes on".

If you date this kind of guy, do not or avoid showing your face to him
with face pack, face mask, always be presentable, nice and cute. If he is
quietnot because he is shy, but he is only quietly thinking. If you have
a chance to ask his X-girlfriend, she will tell you that he is not a shy or
quiet type. If he is really and truly in love with you, he will never lie to
you at all. How do you know if he loves you, bet on your faith! Love him
and treat him steadily and do not try to find anything to argue with him,
he will be with you for sure.

If you are his lover or girlfriend and need to tell him something, go
and say it out loud and straight forward because he hate long boring story.
He hate to play games, chasing for love or being chased, so let him call
you first. He likes a confident woman who also a good follower. If he gets
mad at you, let him be for only a short time he will be normal again. You
have to like and be able to get along with his friends, but he does not have
to do so with all your friends.

Don’t ever think you could make him jealous by flirting with other man,
he will just leave instead of making a scene because he is a confident man
and has to be the first in everything.

…………………………………………………………………………………….

LIBRA WOMAN

Libra woman mostly has an egg oval facial shape. She has a nice smooth
skin and a good figure. She will spent so much efforts to keep her skin
clean and pretty. She can be easily allergy to cosmetic and make up, but taken
care of her face and avoid wrinkle is her hobby. She is good at it and tend to
look younger than her age.

She can be very naughty like a little boy, but yet fully 100% woman.
She looks nice in either Jean or night gown. She thinks woman is equal to
man.Sometimes she can think faster than you, but she will not leave you
far behind. She will try not t o make you feel like you are competed
or defeated in any games she plays with you eve n she is winning.

She is a little flirt even she has no idea what she wants. She can
not decide what to do, and what not to do, so she can not set her schedule
very well in all cases.

She is gifted with how to dress, and how to match her dress. She likes
to dress in black and wear perfume. She likes a mild flowery scent.
In any argument, she can really argue. She can argue for hours, and
mostly win the argument. If it is not a serious argument, she could argue and
once a while give you a smile also. She will make a good politician, because
she can tell which party will win the election.

She always has a good reasons ,even she likes to contradict herself.
She cannot decide what is right and wrong for her, because everything has a
good side and a bad side. Woman in other Zodiac might not care what other
people think, but Libra woman care what other people ,or what you feel as much as her own feeling.
                                    
She can adjust to her environment very well, so at work she will be at
the ladder up. She likes team work in doing things. If you ask her for help
or advice, she will help you except if she does not like your guts. She
can change you and make you think you change by yourself without her
influence. Good side of being with Libra woman are she never interfere with
your privacy. She will not make you loose face in front of your friends.
Even she cares about how much money she has left his her bank account, she
will never forget to let you know how much she cares for you.

She think taken care of the house is a woman job and she can do it
well.But if you expect a Libra woman to fear you, then you are wrong. She is
a strong woman even she looks at you with that sweet innocent pairs of baby’s
looks and may loose you (let you win) in a few poker games.

If she is the one you are after, then go step by step. The best way
is using her friends introd ucing you to her. Do not make her feel or treat her
like a bubble head. You have to move forward toward her with confident and
secure.Show her that you are a kind , polite and a real gentleman. Be a slow
hand or else you might get smack.

kalau lelaki handsome pendiam

Perempuan akan cakap:: woow, cool giler…

kalau lelaki tak handsome pendiam

Perempuan akan cakap: eh perasan bagus…

kalau lelaki handsome berbuat jahat

Perempuan akan kata: nobody’s perfect

kalau lelaki tak handsome berbuat jahat

perempuan akan cakap: memang…. muka pun macam pecah rumah!

kalau lelaki handsome menolong perempuan yg diganggu

perempuan akan cakap: wah.. machonya.. macam hero filem!

kalau lelaki tak handsome menolong perempuan yang diganggu

Perempuan akan kata: entah2 kawan dia…

kalau lelaki handsome dapat perempuan cantik

perempuan akan kata: sepadan sangat…

kalau lelaki tak handsome dapat perempuan cantik

perempuan akan kata: mesti kena bomoh perempuan tuh!

kalau lelaki handsome ditinggal kekasih

perempuan akan kata: jangan sedih, kan saya ada..

kalau lelaki tak handsome ditinggal kekasih

perempuan akan kata:…(terdiam, tapi telunjuknya
meliuk-liuk dari atas ke bawah, patutlah, tengok saja luarannya)…

kalau lelaki handsome penyayang binatang

perempuan akan cakap: perasaannya halus…penuh kasih sayang

kalau lelaki tak handsome penyayang binatang
perempuan akan cakap: sesama keluarga memang harus menyayangi…

kalau lelaki handsome bawa BMW
perempuan akan cakap: matching… hebat luar dalam

kalau lelaki tak handsome bawa BMW

perempuan akan cakap: bang, bosnya mana?…

kalau lelaki handsome menuang air ke gelas perempuan

perempuan akan cakap:ini barulah lelaki gentlemen

kalau lelaki tak handsome menuang air ke gelas
perempuan
perempuan akan cakap: naluri pembantu, memang begitu….

kalau lelaki handsome hantar komen dlm friendster..cepat2 dibalas..
kalau lelaki xhandsome dia akan ckp buang masa je layan..

* Rasullullah s.a.w. bersabda bermaksud : "Sesiapa pulang ke rumahnya serta membaca ayat Kursi, Allah hilangkan segala kefakiran didepan matanya".

* Rasullullah s.a.w. bersabda bermaksud : "Umatku yang membaca ayat Kursi 12 kali pada pagi Jumaat, kemudian berwuduk dan sembahyang sunat dua rakaat, Allah memeliharanya daripada kejahatan syaitan dan kejahatan pembesar."

* Rasullullah s.a.w. bersabda bermaksud : "Orang yang selalu membaca ayat Kursi dicintai dan dipelihara Allah sebagaimana DIA memelihara Nabi Muhammad."

* Rasullullah s.a.w. bersabda bermaksud : "Mereka yang beramal dengan bacaan ayat Kursi akan mendapat pertolongan serta perlindungan Allah daripada gangguan serta hasutan syaitan."

* Rasullullah s.a.w. bersabda bermaksud : "Pengamal ayat Kursi ju! ga, dengan izin Allah, akan terhindar daripada pencerobohan pencuri. Ayat Kursi menjadi benteng yang kuat menyekat pencuri daripada memasuki rumah."

* Rasullullah s.a.w. bersabda bermaksud : "Mengamalkan bacaan ayat Kursi juga akan memberikan keselamatan ketika dalam perjalanannya."

* Rasullullah s.a.w. bersabda bermaksud : "Ayat Kursi yang dibaca dengan penuh khusyuk, insya-Allah, boleh menyebabkan syaitan dan jin terbakar."

* Rasullullah s.a.w. bersabda bermaksud : "Jika anda berpindah ke rumah baru maka pada malam pertama anda menduduki rumah itu eloklah anda membaca ayat Kursi 100 kali, insyaAllah mudah-mudahan anda sekeluarga terhindar daripada gangguan lahir dan batin."

* Rasullullah s.a.w. bersabda bermaksud :"Barang siapa membaca ayat Al-Kursi apabila berbaring di tempat tidurnya, Allah mewakilkan 2 orang Malaikat memeliharanya hingga subuh."

* Rasullullah s.a.w. bersabda bermaksud : "Barang siapa membaca ayat Al-Kursi di akhir setiap sembahyang Fardhu, ia akan berada dalam lindungan Allah hingga sembahyang yang lain."

* Rasullullah s.a.w. bersabda bermaksud : "Barang siapa membaca ayat Al-Kursi di akhir tiap sembahyang, tidak menegah akan dia daripada masuk syurga kecuali maut, dan barang siapa membacanya ketika hendak tidur, Allah memelihara akan dia ke atas rumahnya, rumah jirannya & ahli rumah2 di sekitanya."

* Rasullullah s.a.w. bersabda bermaksud :
"Barang siapa membaca ayat Al-Kursi di akhir tiap-tiap sembahyang Fardhu, Allah menganugerahkan dia hati-hati orang yang bersyukur perbuatan2 orang yang benar, pahala Nabi2 juga Allah melimpahkan padanya rahmat."

* Rasullullah s.a.w. bersabda bermaksud : "Barang siapa membaca ayat Al-Kursi sebelum keluar rumahnya, maka Allah mengutuskan 70,000 Malaikat kepadanya, mereka semua memohon keampunan dan mendoakan baginya.

* Rasullullah s.a.w. bersabda bermaksud : "Barang siapa membaca ayat Al-Kursi di akhir sembahyang Allah azza wa jalla akan pengendalikan pengambilan rohnya dan ia adalah seperti orang yang berperang bersama nabi Allah sehingga mati syahid."

* Rasullullah s.a.w. bersabda bermaksud :"Barang siapa yang membaca ayat al-Kursi ketika dalam kesempitan nescaya Allah berkenan memberi pertolongan kepadanya."

Dari Abdullah bin ‘Amr r.a. ,

Rasullullah s.a.w. bersabda : "SAMPAIKANLAH PESANKU BIARPUN SATU AYAT."

seriusnya…mmg lumrah jika kite rasa ingin memuntahkan sumanya kerana meluat dgn apa yg dilihat.
hahahaha…..sgt teruja dgn sesuatu…rupanya tah apa2.
sgt bahagia ….. tp tah kemana halnya…..
naik muak menengoknya…!
Tuhan balaslah padanya…

malaysia ku hari ini

kuliah maghrib tak de lagi

dikir barat sampai pagi

sure heboh tiap2 negeri

mufti menegur terus dimaki

kes bunuh hari2
rompak ragut makin menjadi

aurat dah tak ambil peduli
termasuk bini para menteri

hukum hudud selalu dicaci

pelembagaan penjajah di junjung tinggi

pejuang islam ditangkap digari

bapak rasuah pula dipuji

inilah dia islam hadhari

tajaan paklah ahmad badawi

Al-ghazali yang kita cari
rupa2nya Mawi yang ditemui…..

dari kampung ke akademi

dari ngaji nak jadi penyanyi

hidup biasa kini sensasi

dari tsunami jadi tsumawi

menjadi idola masa kini

tapi skrg apa dah jadi

putus tunang bapa pula mati

dulu dijulang kini dicaci

konon mula dah lupa diri

ina ditatang kini di benci

alasan sudah takdir ilahi

alasan lapuk sejak azali

akhirnya putus kahwin tak jadi

hai kau ni mawi apa nak jadi….

kini pula kecoh hal siti

dah tiba masa nak dikahwini

oleh datuk tp bukan menteri
jauh lagi pemimpin tertinggi

kahwin pula nak ikut hati

tak de yang muda lekat dihati

yg tua juga pilihan hati

apa nak jadi kau ni siti..

datuk k tu pula tak sedar diri

dah tua bangka nak kahwin lagi

tak sedar diri anak dah berlari

bagi pompuan sekejab menjadi

alasan kahwin juga takdir ilahi

sudah jodoh harus dituruti

umum kahwin bagai nak umum menteri

jangan cerai udah cam erra ngan yusri.

cukup sudah tulisan ku ini
s
ebagai nasihat dan teladan hari ni

kisah 2 insan ini
kononnya role model masa kini

tercipta dari islam hadhari

yang jadi kebanggaan seantero negeri

bak tua dan juga muda mudi

akhir kata dariku ini

moga malaysia negara ku ini
cemerlang gemilang, terbilang lagi terperi

menjadi kebanggaan seluruh duniawi

bukan kerna siti dan mawi

tapi jadilah insan sejati

mencari jalan kebenaran hakiki

moga hidup selalu diredhai

amin….